Hello and welcome folks,
First, you don’t have to be in your 30s to read or connect with this blog. But since I am in my thirties, and a lot of the topics I will cover may be related to being in your 30s, et voila: the theme. The name: I caught myself telling someone I was on ‘the wrong side of 30’ – WTF, I’m 36 – there is no ‘wrong side’. We’ve got to stop thinking of ages as such rigid milestones for behaviour and attitude. However, that doesn’t mean there aren’t some very real issues and conversations around identity and experience that should be explored.
A quick intro – although there is more in my About section – I’ve been a journo for 14 years, am the outgoing Executive Editor for HuffPost UK and an author.
Launch blogs should always set a baseline for a sense of purpose and why they were conceived – and unlike some conceptions, this one wasn’t done drunk. No, this germinated when I lost my shit in And Other Stories, while trying on a size 10 top and realised, it wouldn’t quite do up at the back.
Since I have been a size 10 for most of my life – barring a ‘chips-for-lunch-and-dinner’ phase back in my early twenties when I didn’t realise my metabolism had quietly died on its arse – I knew something was off. So I tried another and another, and then I thought: ‘HEY. The problem is not me, it’s THEM.’
I was so incensed, I took a pic. See? Look at the fucker – it doesn’t even zip up at the back.
And frankly, I was fed up. I don’t know where to shop anymore, ping-ponging between shops for teenagers and those that are just too old for me. Navigating your style in your 30s is a school of hard knocks experience – your heart strings are pulled by impractical clothing, your ego smarts at crop tops you can no longer pull off (if ever you could) and your bum and tummy are just screaming for clothes that are comfortable to sit down in.
It brought up a whole lot of other issues as well. I’m a red-blooded Instagram addict, and I am heavily into keeping fit. I follow a lot of accounts to inspire me on days when I’m feeling lazy, and for tips when I’m looking to push myself in the gym. But an awful lot of these are run by women in their 20s. More power to them – they look fan-fucking-tastic. But in your 30s, you have to work a lot harder to stay in shape and it unfortunately undermines your own sense of body image.
Things got insane when I was ill on and off for two months this year, because I kept pushing myself to go back to the gym spurred on by these feeds. So literally – I was making myself sick. And for what? To compete with people I have no hope of competing with unless Back To The Future becomes a reality.
I’m glad I’m back on track, and I’m lucky that my day job has given me a strong understanding around nutrition because I’d be screwed without it. And then it made me think about how much more I need to learn, and how – again – I figured out the hard way how you have to learn how to eat differently in your 30s – and NO ONE TELLS YOU THIS.
So I wanted to create a space to also share stories of how women in their 30s are getting fit. And more importantly – normal women who have to balance day jobs and a ton of other shit, and don’t have the luxury of working out two hours a day.
Being a posey poserson 👇
There’s also a lot to explore about honesty and truth. I mean on the one hand, I’m more confident and self-assured than I’ve ever been. On the other hand…I still don’t know what the fuck I’m doing. And maybe that’s okay?
But I couldn’t find a huge amount out there. I really had to dig out the inspirational women in their 30s and make a point of following their stories. And nothing is better than reading about the personal journeys and lives of other people to make informed choices about your own life.
So this is the blog that will chart some of my explorations into all of this, and I’ll also feature and re-post on Instagram some of the amazing women I come across in my travels.
This is also a strictly freebie-free zone.
No offence to any bloggers or Instagrammers who do so, but this blog is about charting a decade in a woman’s life and all the stuff that throws up. And as a journalist, I’ve got to practise what I preach and be able to do that in an unbiased way.
If you’d like to get in touch or suggest topics you’d like to read about please do, and meanwhile, I hope you enjoy reading.